My BDSM philosophy
First of all, I think BDSM is different for everyone and it will vary depending on each individual. There are many conceptions of BDSM as there are practitioners. As part of a Dom/sub relationship, communication is essential, it is this that will build a bond based on trust and respect. It will also allow the two participants to express their fantasm and expectations, build confidence that will allow one to exceed oneself.
This is why as a Dominant, one of my first roles is to always be attentive to the words and body language of the submissive in order to know how far it is possible to go. Exceeding one's limits can on occasions be a liberating rebirth. However this can be difficult both painful physically and psychologically, depending on the person.
In this journey, the Mistress will be the guide and will accompany the subject in complete safety. In my eyes, the role of the Mistress is to advance the submissives to discovery or even rediscovery of their body, an awakening of the senses and occasionally the soul. It will allow them to go deep into their being, dreams and even fears breaking down mental barriers.
Under the benevolent gaze of the Mistress the submissive can then enter into the world the Mistress has created. A world that will bring a beneficial, benevolent peace.